One thing that has been bothering me…well not exactly bothering but I’ve been questioning is what people consider love to be. Me personally, I’m not sure what love is. From what I hear, it’s one of the greatest things in life to experience & also that it’s unconditional but in a time that’s so temporary wonder if love still exists or is it just lust & attachments that people associate love with. This post makes me think about the Valentine’s Day episode of Orange is the New Black when they asked the prisoners what they thought love was and got different answers from each of the women. There’s no one right answer, there’s just different perspectives.
I feel like the female perspective on love is something from a Disney movie or something that makes someone feel out of this world, something that they’ve never felt before towards another person or thing, something like a passion. When I think of love, I get breathless because I’ve seen real love transform many people for the better and the thought of someone making me a better person and me doing the same for them is amazing. To have that much of a positive impact on another person has to be uplifting to the spirit. But for right now, I’m only in the love with the idea of love.
The male perspective on love is what really confuses me. As an old friend said to me once, “We are not meant to understand the opposite sex. The more you try to understand, the more you’ll get confused. We won’t understand, we just coexist.” So I won’t even try to completely understand, but I just want to know what process goes on in the male mind. There are some guys that’ll confess their love for a woman and will do things to cater to her every desire and there are some that say they love the woman in their life but disrespect her in the utmost of ways. Is that really love? Not to say that for it to be love you have to cater to your significant other’s every need but shouldn’t respect be the thing you want to give most in love? Love is a connection and how can you say you love someone if you’re not on the same level.
Love is an idea and although I’ve probably felt the strongest feelings of love, I still question what it is. What is your definition of love? How does it make you feel? Like most things, words can’t perfectly describe it but how do you know it’s love? My best friend said, “If you laugh at my bad jokes, we in love” haha. Obviously that’s just scratching the surface but that could be the beginning stages.